Betrayal Trauma
What Is a Betrayal Trauma Intensive? What Three Days Can Look Like
November 10, 2026 · 4 min read · General education
When you're healing from betrayal, weekly therapy can sometimes feel like opening a wound for fifty minutes and then closing it again until next week. For many people, that steady rhythm is exactly right. For others, especially those who feel stuck or want focused time to go deeper, an intensive can be a meaningful option.
In this article, I'll explain what a betrayal trauma intensive is, what my three-day intensive includes, how it compares with weekly sessions, and how to know if it might be a good fit for you.
What Is a Betrayal Trauma Intensive?
A betrayal trauma intensive is a concentrated block of therapeutic work, usually over several consecutive days, focused on healing the trauma that follows infidelity, deception, or a partner's sex or porn addiction.
Instead of spreading the work over months of weekly appointments, an intensive gives you extended, uninterrupted time to learn, process, and practice new tools in a supportive environment. You can step away from daily demands and give your healing your full attention.
What My Three-Day Intensive Includes
My Betrayal Trauma Intensive is three five-hour days focused on healing the betrayal trauma you've experienced. It brings together several pieces:
Individual and group sessions
Time for both one-on-one betrayal trauma counseling and connection with others who understand what you're going through. Many people tell me how healing it is to realize they're not alone.
Betrayal trauma education
Understanding why you feel the way you do can be a relief. We'll talk about how betrayal affects the heart, mind, and body, and what tends to help.
Therapeutic modalities
- Neural network processing through EMDR and ART These trauma-focused approaches help the brain process distressing memories.
- Breath work to help calm and regulate your nervous system
- Mindfulness to help you stay grounded in the present
- Art and sand tray therapy for the feelings that are hard to put into words
- Trauma-informed yoga to gently reconnect with your body
Healing projects
- Body Dysmorphia Mirror Project. Betrayal often shakes how we see ourselves, including our bodies. This project gently explores that.
- Breaking Through the Masks We Wear Art Project. A creative way to explore the roles we play to survive and who we are underneath.
You can find full details and current pricing on my Betrayal Trauma Intensive page.
Intensive vs. Weekly Therapy: How Do They Compare?
Neither is "better." They're different tools, and many people use both.
| Weekly therapy | Three-day intensive | |
|---|---|---|
| Pace | Gradual, steady | Focused and concentrated |
| Time commitment | About an hour a week over months | Three five-hour days |
| Good for | Ongoing support, day-to-day stabilization | Going deeper, feeling stuck, limited schedule |
| Connection | One-on-one | Individual plus group time |
| After | Continues as needed | Often followed by ongoing counseling for support |
An intensive isn't meant to replace ongoing care. For many people, it's a jump-start or a turning point, and weekly sessions afterward help integrate what they experienced.
Who Might Benefit From an Intensive?
An intensive may be worth considering if you:
- Feel stuck in the same painful loops despite weekly therapy
- Want focused time to process the trauma rather than only manage it
- Have a busy schedule that makes weekly sessions hard
- Want to connect with others who understand betrayal
- Are ready to engage in deeper, experiential work
An intensive may not be the best first step if you're in immediate crisis, don't yet feel physically or emotionally safe, or need stabilization before deeper trauma work. In those cases, I'll help you find the right starting point, and an intensive can come later.
How to Prepare for a Betrayal Trauma Intensive
If you decide an intensive is right for you, a little preparation helps:
- Talk with me first so we can make sure the timing and format fit your needs.
- Clear your schedule as much as you can, including childcare, work, and evening commitments.
- Plan gentle evenings. Rest, eat well, and give yourself room to feel.
- Line up support for the days and weeks after.
- Come as you are. You don't need to have the right words or be "ready." Just willing.
Frequently Asked Questions
How much does the Betrayal Trauma Intensive cost?
Single intensives are $1,800 per day. Couple intensives are $2,500 per day or $3,500 for three days. Please see the intensive page for current details.
Is this for couples?
Yes. Individual and couples intensives are offered. Couples can use focused counseling time to work through the impact of betrayal and consider their next steps together. No intensive can promise a particular outcome.
Will one intensive "fix" everything?
No intensive can promise a particular outcome. Many people find it a meaningful step in their healing, and ongoing counseling often continues afterward.
Do I need to be a current client?
Reach out and we'll talk about whether the intensive is a good fit for where you are right now.
Give Yourself Room to Heal
You deserve more than just getting through each day. If you've been longing for focused time and support, an intensive may be a gentle, powerful next step.
Book an appointment to talk with me about the Betrayal Trauma Intensive, or learn more on the intensive page.
This article is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. If you are in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or call 911.
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